Everyone loves to be part of a team. A desire to join with other people in a common pursuit is deeply rooted in who we are as human beings. Being part of a team is a good thing and we are better, stronger, and more effective when we work together in teams.
ORANS is all about the effort to #FightTribalism - so what does that mean for you in deciding whether or not to join a team or a movement? Does it mean that we should avoid joining groups because they might end up being coalitions that draw their energy primarily from demonizing and opposing some other group? Well, maybe, but maybe not.
Surely, it is good to join a group that is focused on doing something together that you love or believe in - like participating in a sport, worshipping in a faith community, or working together on a community improvement project. ORANS completely supports the idea of collaboration and that takes joint action by groups. ORANS also encourages you to join groups that provide you with fellowship, joy and fulfillment. So, yes, go ahead and join the team that your heart feels called to join. However, ORANS also challenges you to recognize when a group that you are a member of begins to move toward tribalism, to resist that, and to use your leadership power and voice to #FightTribalism.
So you love your team, but you don’t hate your opponents. You can be a strong advocate for your team and what you believe in, but you don’t attack and demonize the people on the other side - even when, in your eyes they might be deplorable, ignorant, and hateful.
Attack the problems, focus on solutions, and always be ready for dialogue.
In areas of group endeavor that involve competition, compete fairly - without using deception, force, cheating, or exploitation to win. Taking a purely transactional, power-over-others, approach focused only on winning at all costs creates a bleak and barren competitive landscape where only the bullies thrive until they have destroyed the joy of the game for everyone. If that is what you want then, go ahead, but know that a ruthless, win-at-all-costs, approach will only isolate and alienate you from others in the long run. For those who choose to compete fairly, we need to #FightTribalism by calling it out when we see it, naming it, shaming it, and using your voice to insist on fair play.
Why not hate the opponent, the other that hates you? Don’t they deserve your anger and opposition when they are hateful?
Because your hate for them merely perpetuates a cycle of conflict, escalates the conflict, causes division, and, in worst cases, leads to violent outcomes that make everyone poorer, weaker and spiritually damaged. Loving the enemy, but hating the problem and attacking it with solutions-focused dialogue is a great way to start as you #FightTribalism.
ORANS is a nonprofit founded in 2015 to promote relational leadership. We want to help: find solutions to difficult problems, deal with difficult people, handle bullies, stop stonewalling, avoid triangling, fight tribalism, use active nonviolence to achieve change, improve dialogue and communication, create lasting change, foster quality dialogue, stay centered and mindful, control personal reactivity, build self-awareness and awareness of personality differences, live in the now, use no labels, be more grounded, be more generous, be more humble, and be more kind. Love one another. Be Relational. #FightTribalism #RepealAUMF